THE ART OF SAYING NO

How many times have you told yourself that there is just not enough time in the day to get everything done? At times, managing a hectic schedule can feel like you’re putting together a puzzle only to have someone come and knock the table over as you near the finish line.  You want to be there for your kids, your partner, your parents, your friends but these things often come at the expense of your own needs.  You’re quick to say yes.  To take on another task, project, or event.  To squeeze one more thing into an already full plate.  You believe that you’re being a good mom, friend, wife, colleague…. but are you really? Are you showing up the way you’d like to when you’re saying yes to things that leave you overwhelmed and depleted? Are you fully present or is your mind already dipping into the next thing on your list? 

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Instead of responding to requests with a problem-solving mentality of how and where can I fit this in to my already full schedule, first ask yourself “if I make time for this request, what am I saying no to?”  because every "yes" results in a "no" to something else.  Is it family dinner and a chance for connection with your kids or spouse? Is it your workout? Sleep? Is it giving the project your full effort? Is it your time to rest and recuperate so you can show up fully for those moments that matter?

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It’s up to you to identify what are you missing out on when you say yes to this new request.  Really think before reacting.  Examine which of these things aligns with the person you want to be. With YOUR deepest values. With YOUR happiness. This is not the time to tell yourself what you “should” do, but instead the time to be brave and honor your own needs. When you honor your own desires and needs first, it shows.  It spills over in ways you wouldn’t expect.  It's only then that you truly can be the mom, sister, wife, friend, employee that you want to be.