I CAN'T DECIDE

Much of our time and energy is spent making decisions.  We weigh the pros and cons.  We examine the various consequences.  We spin in "what ifs".  We wish we could tell the future because then we would know what to do.

 

When we peel away the confusion and indecision, we're left with the thing that is really stopping us from taking action: our fear. 

 

The fear of how we’ll treat ourselves if we pick the ‘wrong’ way.  The pain we’ll create from thinking that we should have known.  The guilt we’ll feel from making a mistake.  The shame of costing time, energy, money, or happiness for ourselves and those we care about. 

 

What if instead of focusing on all that energy on finding the ‘right’ answer, we focus instead on having our own back? On committing to self-compassion no matter the outcome? 

 

Because here’s the truth:  There is not a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ decision.  Regardless of the path we take, we will grow.  We will learn.  We will have good days and bad days.  We can take comfort in knowing that the version of us who is making the decision today is doing her very best with the information she has available.  

 

So take a moment and search within yourself- what do YOU want?  What decision would you make right now if you knew either option ended in success? You don't need to do any more research or look outside yourself.  You already have the answer.  Trust your own wisdom.  Decide.  Then take a breath, have your own back and move forward.